Multiplicity Challenge

So I'm not sure how many of you actually know this about me but this is the reason my blog in mane what it is. Have fun. 

1. How do you communicate? (Do you ever hear each other’s voices? Do you ever talk to/with each other out loud? Do you ever leave notes for one another? Do you ever communicate without words (using images/feelings/colors/etc.)?) 

We actually do a bit of all of this to be honest, & it depends on the situation. Alot of the time now-a-days it’s by words that I hear them say. 

2. How do you find new members? (Do you find other members mostly through journaling? Or can you see and hear them?)

For the most part if just hear them, or feel them. Then their name just kind of pops comes to me.

3. How do you choose who wears what? Do you argue over clothing styles?

Oh god, all the time. The girls always have something to complain about (Mostly Emma @.@) & seeing how Kradonous wears Egyptian robe type things he finds them quite constricting. 

 4. How are decisions made in the front (consensus/majority rules/one person makes them/other)? 

It always has been, & always will be, whatever is best for the host. (Me, Cyran/Yuki) Because I am out the most so I will have to deal with the repercussions.

 5. Is knowledge shared equally or do some people have access to things that other people don’t? 

To the main on’s that front knowledge is shared but to those who aren’t out as much usually don’t know as much. It really depends. 

6. Can you remember things that other people in your group do? Are you aware of what happens in the front when you’re not there?

Yes, I don’t like not knowing what is going on with MY body so I know everything that is going on at all times (even if I trust them whole haretedly. ) it’s just not something I am comfortable with. 

 7. Do you remember dreams? Are they your own? Do you share each other’s dreams? 

I think there was one time that Krade, or Kradonous went to sleep in the body & I saw their dream but it doesn’t happen often, or at all really. They do tend to share my dreams though. 

 8. Do you all take responsibility when you wrong somebody as a group effort, more collective apology or do you expect the person who did the wrong to fess up? 

Do you mean to each other or to the outsiders? 

Either way, we all take responsibility for our own actions. 

9. Is there one in your group that stays in the body for more time than the rest? (How often do your primary front-runners change? How often do frontiers switch out? Is fronting a skill that has to be taught?)

The host stays out the most as it’s the host’s life & they are the main fronter. The rest come out at night (as that’s when the host is doing the least.) When they are asked for by someone, or if they want to enjoy something briefly (A cig, a song, or a movie maybe.) If the host can’t handle something they will come out too but that doesn’t happen as often as it used to. For the most part they just give advice if needed or asked for. Or witty comments. Depending on what is wanted/needed at the time. 

10. How do you parcel out time during waking hours between work, school, hobbies, and social commitments? Is it left up to whoever is in the front or do you plan it out? How do you balance money/space usage?

Space in a living space? The money that we make is all Cyran/Yuki’s so he decided how everyone uses it but he uses it mostly for what he needs/wants. We don’t plan anything in advance. It just happens when wanted needed. But host take first priority, & makes all the calls unless they are unable to do that at the time. 

11. Are there noticeable differences with who fronts? How can an outsider recognize a switch? How would I know whom in your group I’m speaking to? Do you announce yourselves? What’s the most polite way to ask who I’m talking to? What if I want to talk to (name) but (name) is out?

Yes, there is. For Kradonous it’s his accent or the way he speaks, he also is a king so his speech is MUCH different then anyone else. Krade has a deeper voice & (as of right now) is blind so he typically has his eyes closed, he also tends to be really cras but has a HUGE heart. For Emma, the voice goes up to a much more girly tone, she is super rude, holds nothing back & if she doesn’t like you god forbid because she won’t hold back. For Carolina (We call her Cali) she holds herself very up right, the voice go very soft & she is more of a mother then anyone will ever be. Those are the easiest to notice & the one’s that come out when in an emergency anymore. The rest you just kinda learn as you go.

If you want to talk to someone then just ask whoever is out to find them, or call for them if they aren’t their. If, for some reason, they can’t get to you we will pass a message to them & as soon as they can get to you they will. 

12. Ever have someone stuck at the front? What makes you get stuck here or home?

This happened a long time ago but it’s not longer an issue so I don’t have a good answer.

13. How do people compensate for not having their bodies out front (ex. not matching the body’s gender or appearance)? How does the physical body impact upon the consciousness? Particularly in cases where the gender or even species are different, does it have some profound effects on the way you’d interact with or view the world?

It honestly depends on who’s out at that time. Most of the guys just get over it & consider it an “adventure” (unless the body is doing that once a month thing) the girls just complain about how much they hate they body not being more…”girly.” Most everyone copes nicely with everything though.

14. What age range do you have in your system? Do younger or older front runners have a hard time not being in an age appropriate body? Do you have children/minors in your system? What, if any, restrictions do you place on their behavior, in-system and publicly?

The age range is crazy. I think our youngest (Right now) is 3? & the oldest is centuries old. Again, everyone copes pretty well. The parents control the kids in-system & the younger one’s just don’t come out in public to make thing easy for everyone. Doesn’t seem wise to let a 3 year old out to do whatever in a 21 year old’s body, no? Haha.

15. If you could call what you are something other than MPD/DID, natural Plural or Multiple what other term might you use? Or do you like one of the existing ones? Do you call yourselves a system?

We use Medium personally, but when we are not around people who believe in such things we say Multiple. Different people need different terms. We consider ourselves a system to a sense as everyone is in it for the same goal.  

16. How do you all decide how much of yourselves is public? Do you tell everyone that you’re multiple? Are you more comfortable around other multiples than around singlets?

We decide weather they are going to be someone who is going to be close to us or not & if they aren’t then we never mention it, but if we decide we want the to stay we let them know what’s up. If they stay, that’s great, if they go then it’s all good too. Everyone has their opinion & a right to it. We are comfortable around everyone, as long as they are willing to understand us.

17. How do you keep track of who is in your system?

We used to try & keep a list but now we just let who ever wants to be known known & who ever doesn’t fade away. The main one’s are turely the only one’s that matter for everyone sanity/protection.

19. When did you all realize you were a group? Have there always been several people in your body since birth?

We REALIZED it when the body was 16 but we have tracked it back to when the body was 5 or so. We think it’s been this way from birth honestly.

20. Did something “cause” your multiplicity? Do you believe in the medical model at all, for yourself or others?

We don’t see each other as “personalities.” The host sees everyone as spirits that “come to stay.” (Goes back to being a Medium.) I can’t talk for others but I do believe everyone is different. 

21. Tell me about your ideas on integration and separateness. How does it affect your worldview?

We can’t actually give you an answer to this at the moment. 

22. Does anyone in your household/group lose time?

No.

23. Does your system as a whole deal with other kinds of neuroatypicality? Do individuals? 

Yes, but that is not something we want to talk about. 

24. How are your memories stored (each person has her or his own/different people store different types/some are personal and some are shared by everyone/other/combination)? Who has access to memories (only the person there/only certain people/anyone they affected/need to know basis)?

We all a have a collective memory but when they are doing things that do not involve the body or the host then the others keep up with it on their own. 

25. Is anyone’s identity tied to the body? How do people whose self-identification does not match the body deal with it? Does anyone in your group use the body’s birth certificate name? 

The host is tied to the body but we can’t say it’s the same host the started with the body. there is a basis there but so much has changed since birth. The host only uses the birth certificate name for ligeal things but besides that they go by Cyran/Yuki. So does everyone else unless it’s not needed.

26. Do you have a group name? How did you get it?

Not yet, but we are thinking about one. We just have to come up with one first or if someone has any suggestions then we are more then willing to hear them.

27. How are relationships handled in your group? Do you have in-system relationships? Out-of-system relationships? Is the body functionally asexual, monogamous, polyamorous or something else?

As said before, the host relationship is the most important one of all. If someone from the system wants time with their other they ask & if there is time it’s given. It there isn’t then something is arranged for later or they go where ever to see them. The host likes open relationships to make it easier on everyone (Including them) but even in a monogamous relationship they would talk to their other & explain that they are not willing to close that of to anyone who wants body time for personal reasons.

  

28. Do you celebrate any birthdays? The body’s? Individuals?

The birth day of the body (Of course!) Then a few others. Kradonous’ is Feb 14th, & Krade is December 22. Sebastian’s is September…16th I believe & everyone else just kinda gets ignored. 

29. Any advice for someone who is trying to figure out if they’re multiple, or for a new multiple just getting to know their system?

If you have any question fill free to ask someone who has been multiple longer then you. They most likely can help more then anyone else & will be more then willing to. It’s always nice to know you aren’t alone. Also, make sure you get control of them before they get control of you. People will be able to tell & it will tear you apart in my experience. 

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